christine bersola-babao : TINULIGSA DAHIL SA KABABAWAN!

pizap.com13630542233771Baka hindi alam ni Christine Bersola-Babao na ang Pink Community ay parang NIPPLES… SOBRANG SENSITIVE.  Hindi dapat basta-bastang tinatalakay ang topic ng kabaklaan sa pamamaraang may bahid ng kaplastikan. Kunsabagay, plastik naman talaga ang conduct ng tv host/writer na ‘yan kung kaya’t nang mabasa sangbekihan ang kanyang pyesa ukol sa diumano’y kabaklaan ng isang bata sa tonong hinaluan ng hypocricy at bigotry, agad siyang tinuligsa! Narito ang kanyang sinulat sa PDI :

“In the daily morning show, Good Morning Club, which I co-host daily on TV5, we recently discussed an interesting topic: What should a parent do if the child shows early signs of being gay? It was a sensitive topic handled with care. My co-hosts Edu Manzano, Amy Perez, Chiqui Roa-Puno and I shared the same view: That gayness is not a plague. That if one of our sons turns out to be gay, we were unanimous in saying that “We shall accept and love our sons just the same, just as much.” For this article, I sought the expertise of family counselor and Trio Tagapayo of Amy’s Face to Face, noted psychologist Dr. Camille Garcia, who answered the frequently asked questions (FAQs). What are the early signs? I’ve read that when a two- or three-year-old plays with girl’s toys, that doesn’t necessarily mean he is gay since that is just the “curiosity phase.” Is this true? At what age will the signs of true “gayness” come out? Others may say that doing something effeminate is already a sign of gayness like playing with female toys, being effeminate in some ways, etc. Remember the child, at this age, does not know the girl-boy gender yet. It’s up to the parents to make the child be aware of his/her gender: “Ikaw ay babae, siya ay lalaki.” True gayness comes out at pubertal stage. (It is when the child desires or has a crush on the same sex.) What is wrong with some parents is encouraging the behavior. It’s like when a parent says, “Kung ano ang binigay sa amin ng Diyos tatanggapin namin.”  Remember ang binigay ng Diyos na anak is a girl or boy. A six-year-old can already identify his/her gender. Good parenting structures the right role of a person. What creates the reinforcement of the said behavior is when parents allow the thinking. (For example: “Sige anak, ok naman na maging bakla ka, tatanggapin ka namin.”) Should parents be alarmed and arrest the situation? Or encourage it?  Arrest the situation, ’yun ang tama. But most parents encourage the situation. Tatanggapin agad. Let’s be moral in making the child understand the situation, di ba yun ang dapat. We tell our child, “Anak, mali ito.” How should the parents address this? Some parents resort to threat and extreme military-style punishment. Some parents go to great lengths to explain to the child the consequences of being gay, so that the child can think, then make a choice. Threat and punishment encourage the child more to do things wrongly, because you are shutting off the situation. Make sure you discuss with your child openly. “Alam mo anak, hindi namin gusto yung ginugusto mo.“ Explain that he is a boy and therefore, as boys, they grow up as men and their partners are women. “Hindi kasi tama ang makasama sa buhay at magpapamilya ay parehas na lalaki. Kung ayaw mo itama ang ginugusto mo, hindi namin matatanggap yun.” Things can be discussed fully. At least you have attempted to talk it out with your child, explaining the moral and complex implication of what he likes. Remember you can have effeminate ways, but you never desire men. Yun yung emphasis ng pagtuturo sa bata. After pubertal stage, it’s a different story. Why is being gay still considered a shame for conservative families, even now that we are living in modern times that gays are accepted in our society? Gays (both male and female) are contributing well to our society, in different professional fields. Most families still cannot accept the fact that something went wrong with their parenting. They feel that something is not right — moral issues are always part of the issues, especially to the Christian and close family ties. Traditions and culture as well are still part of the family structure that greatly influences their views regarding homosexuality. Remember, since child rearing and proper parenting are part of one’s holistic disposition, the lifestyle and preference he will choose is considered to be part of what a parent has nurtured and instilled in him (especially during the formative years, from my point of view). Is being gay really a lifestyle choice? Or genetically influenced?  The genetic predisposition is there but if from the start it is corrected, maiaayos. Remember, genetic predisposition. Hindi minana, na at the start bakla siya. Ipinanganak siyang lalaki o babae. Ikaw na magulang ang mag aayos at magtuturo. Thus, the lifestyle and preference become prevalent rather than the genetic factors. This is the most Christian and appropriate explanation I can give. I thank Dr. Camille for her expertise and for shedding light on this sensitive topic. As a mom who has a three-year-old son named Nio, my personal take on the matter is this: Nio, when curious, plays with his big sister’s toys. But we always point it out to him that those are toys for girls, and these are toys for boys. We compare toys so that he will understand. Before he turned three, he was fully aware and could already distinguish the girls’ toys from the boys’ toys. We realized that playing with his big sister’s toys is his loving way of bonding and playing with his Ate Antonia. When big sister is not around, Nio doesn’t touch the girly toys. Apart from toys, he chooses what clothes and shoes to wear, and his choices are very masculine. I think the presence of a dominant male figure in our home, that is Julius my husband, is a great factor why Nio is very much male. They play rough games such as boxing, kiddie baseball, sword fights, wrestling and the like. I think that activities such as these will help establish the child’s gender role. I am simply talking from experience, having a young son, a three-year-old. Now, if you ask me  what if my son grows up to be gay? I will not encourage it. But will I accept? A mother will always accept her child. A mom may not agree with all of her child’s choices or preferences, but in the end, being a kind human being is more important than what your gender is. We do our best as parents. We guide our children based on societal norms while balancing what is personally and morally acceptable to our own families. But once they are adults and choose to live life a certain way, it is their choice, and along with it, the consequences. A parent must be there to support and love their children all the way, no matter what. We all deserve to be happy and free. We are all children of God, and in the end, regardless of gender, it is God who will judge us.”

Sa pagkalink ni Gibbs Cadiz sa  artikulo,  dinumog agad ng mga komentong kinokondena ang mga naging pahayag ni Babao:

  • Von Cuerpo Vomit.
  • Rony Fortich wow, that kinda made my head spin…
  • Lea Salonga Parang I wanna write something about gay kids… I’d like to think I have a little experience… What say you?
  • Noel Escondo nahilo ako sa kanya. the way she pointed out the early signs parang disease kaagad ang pagiging gay. tapos tinapos nya with her experience, at nakakaloka yung conclusion nya na kaya sure syang hindi magiging bakla ang anak nya kasi may father figure at mahilig sa basketball at boxing… HELLOOOOOOOOOO!
  • Riley Palanca just flat-out offensive
  • Monique Wilson What a bigot. Let us please educate her. It is dangerous to have someone like her, who has access to the media and who has a voice – to be pontificating about things she clearly has no understanding of. And worse, that her moralizing, her bigotry, her clear prejudice and discrimination is even given space.
  • Joy Cadiz-hinkley Tsk tsk, a bigot trying to sound reasonable…psst, since she’s into morals, let’s talk about tolerance, acceptance, appreciation for the fact that we all have something positive to contribute
  • Marck Ronald Rimorin It’s totally disappointing how the struggles and triumphs of the gay community are trivialized and trampled upon like this.
  • Marck Ronald Rimorin Pandering, that’s what it is.
  • Perry D. C. Adiaz Poorly written I would say. It’s kinda confusing who said what… The quotes, were they the writer’s or the source’s?? Anyway, same sentiments, whoever said all that BS, has to live as a gay person first, then live in a highly-discriminating environment, then she can start speaking about it. And they call themselves “experts”. Ugh.
  • Red Concepcion Shame, shame on that Dr. Molina. Taking her personal prejudices and bigoted views and doling them out as “expert” advice… It’s enough to make a person hurl.
  • Dan Asa Sad and shame that a public figure like her still have views such a this… It is a wasted opportunity for a human being to have evolved in this way…
  • Lea Salonga I’ve got a weekly column and I’m not afraid to use it.
  • Jasper Po Lea & Monique: if you are connected to her via FB/twitter… seems it would not be a bad idea to write her a private letter, one that will complement the thoughts on the public letter/column about gay kids. I think she will go on the defensive though.
  • Lea Salonga The only experts on being gay are gay people. I wonder if it ever occurred to the writer to actually talk to someone that’s gay to get their views.
  • Jiunski Rilski There was always something superficial, fake, insincere and shallow about her. Pardon the ad hominem, but this writing of hers just confirms all that. Self-appointed morality experts always have the most skeletons to hide. Ikaw na ang pinaka malinis at perpekto.
  • Arpee Lazaro oh my goodness! bigotry from someone who is supposed to be educated! nicely disguised as a parenting issue, when in fact it is not. bersola describes being a good christian as the reason why being gay is wrong. pag maaga daw maagapan, naiaayos pero nowhere does she mention the stigma of such talk to a child. being straight because it is being christian is such bullcrap.
  • Emil Cañita @Lea – WEEERRRQQQQQ
  • Lea Salonga Emil – Werq’d na. It should be in Emmie’s inbox right now.
  • Jesse Tuason Tintin needs to take a break from her job and go back to school. The “expert” needs to retire.
    • Wilfredo Lukban Sounds like the logic of the “we love them gay people but we do not like them gay acts” crowd…the same people who claim the “love the sinner hate the sin” logic. It’s the logic that makes one’s head spin with the lack of logic. Obviously, unless sheresolves to abandon an antiquated belief that has been used to justify persecuting people based on sexual preference or gender identity or both; she will never resolve her issue. What is sad is that she uses her position and so-called reputation as a professional psychologist to justify her illogical views that is obviously based on her personal issues. And she will claim she is right because she is a psychologist. 

      But the one also has to look at the venue of her column. The Philippine Star is known for conservative views and editorials. So no surprise there.

      Tintin Bersola-Babao, I could not believe you, of all people, would write an article like this. You, who have been sorrounded by gays and lesbians from the media eversince you started in the business! You think being gay is something that is “acquired” or that it can be stopped? My gosh, don’t you have gay and lesbian friends from the business? Or if you do, do they really know how you think about them? Your take on this is such a disappointment.

3 comments on “christine bersola-babao : TINULIGSA DAHIL SA KABABAWAN!

  1. why po ba is Bersola babao very mababao is also gay????? bakit asawa yata ay gay din tingnan ang nbibig magsalita mga kapatid. kapuso si luia at si chris din po. di dahil may asawa at anak ay di na gay. sulat yan ng taong tago ang kanilang gayness. phewwww

  2. but mind you people. christine is well guarded gay since college days. funny but julious is much gay, mga tagong gay, but a lot of people knows they are gay. true to their names mababao nga. mga hambog. tiyak karma din at magkakaanak yan ng mga gay watch it. mas manly she cris at mas girlish si julia napakababao. at mga judgemental couple. dapat ng mawala sa TV ang mga gaya ng magasawang hipokritong higit na bakla binabakla pa nila ang buhay nila.

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